Dealing with impulsive behaviour is something that a lot of us put off. Even though we recognise the need to address it, we assume it’ll take a long time. So we keep putting it off and focus on other priorities instead. But the longer we wait, the worse our impulsivity issues can become.
“I don’t have time to do this program. I am so busy – I need some kind of a podcast – then I can do it. I am just too busy.”
You know what, you are right. Of course, you don’t have time to do it. You are busy at work or studying, you need to take care of your children, partner, parents, cooking, cleaning… The majority of us find it hard to allocate time to the things that we want to do. Daily demands really leave us with very few essential resources to help our self-development, growth, and improvement.
Prioritise Dealing With Impulsive Behaviour
Many people will prioritise their career, children, partners, paying bills and other essentials over their own health and wellbeing. Dealing with impulsive behaviour is something that can wait until we have more time.
For example, many people, when deadlines are approaching and stress increases, start compromising their self- care routine: preparing healthy lunches, going to a gym, doing yoga. It becomes difficult to find time to relax and unwind, some of us take shortcuts with their nourishment and self-care. We might turn to fast food, have a glass of wine to unwind rather than spend time meditating, watch TV instead of going for a walk or talking to a friend.
All in all, I get it, you don’t have time. You have other urgent things to do.
Let me tell you that I also understand when you usually find time for dealing with impulsive behaviour…
- It happens when your doctor tells you that you are at risk of having diabetes if you don’t make any life changes, learn to control your impulsive eating and start moving a bit more.
- When your wife leaves you after you could not control your temper again and you realise that your reactive aggressive anger drove your wife away.
- When you get fired after you embarrassed yourself at an office party and your colleagues uploaded photos of you passed out on the floor in the bathroom.
- When someone got injured because in the heat of the argument you threw things without an intent to hurt someone.
- When debt collectors start calling you daily and you are embarrassed to admit that you have a 20K debt because you were shopping for stuff you don’t even need.
- When you start dealing with serious consequences of your impulsive overeating, reactive aggressive anger outbursts, impulsive shopping, gambling and other addictive behaviours, you are more likely to find the time.
Sometimes, the pain you experience has to be quite great for you to take the first step; it may take losing our job, friendships, an intimate partner, health, future opportunities, or the respect of others.
Unfortunately, for some of us, by the time we decide to do it, it might already be too late.
You don’t have to hit rock bottom to learn how to change. So, prioritise, find time.
We are not talking about doing a university degree. Simply spend 20-30 minutes a day to learn and understand the difficulties you experience better. BE in control of your life. Sign up to one of our Online Impulsivity Programs today and learn proven strategies to be in control of your behaviour at all times.
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