Make 2021 the best year yet by following our researched tactics for successful personal development.

2020 has been a year like no other with lockdowns, fires, floods, and travel bans. It was a hard year to achieve success with last year’s new years resolutions, but that creates the opportunity to make 2021 the best year yet. We want to help you define, develop and achieve goals for next year. The majority of us find it difficult to stick with our goals and resolutions. We want to help you to make the most of the opportunity of a fresh start. So, we will share the most essential tips to help you to achive your goals in 2021 by sticking with your resolutions. Based on extensive research and years of experience, these tips will help you to achieve success. 

#1 How to define your new year’s resolutions

Ok, it might sound like a cliche, but I assure you that it is important to write your resolutions down. When you do, I want you to think about resolutions in the areas of:

  1. Your physical and mental health. Don’t forget your spirituality as well.
  2. Your career and education. Consider starting (and actually completing) a new course or consider the direction of your career.
  3. Your relationships. It can be with friends, partners, children or any other person. Your relationships need love and care and especially time. Think of how your resolution can help you reconnect with those you care about.
  4. Your finances. It is never too late or too early to start thinking about making changes that will positively impact your finances.
  5. Beat one old bad habit. Bingeing, procrastination, blackout drinking. 
  6. Develop one new great habit! Yes, not all habits are bad. Find something that you can do daily or weekly to help you to improve your life. 

#2 Make your goals achievable and specific 

Just saying that you want to get fit is not enough. To say that you want to lose 25 kilograms might feel overwhelming, so why don’t you break it down into smaller goals that aren’t so daunting. 

Even if a long term goal is to lose 25 kilograms and you want to be fit, think about daily and weekly goals. Instead of losing 25kgs in a year, you might say you want to lose 500grams a week.

Once holidays are over what can you commit to? Can you go for a run every second day? One PT session a week? Stop eating sugary snacks? So you might say, in order for me to be fit I will run at 6 am for 30 minutes Monday, Wednesday and Friday. Being specific and making your goals actionable and achievable keeps you accountable. Accountability increases the likelihood that your will achieve your goals.

#3 Don’t procrastinate – stop avoiding the initial discomfort of starting something new (or old)

Many of us think we have good reasons and excuses why we didn’t acheive our goals. One of the main reasons we are unable to stick to our goals stems from procrastination. We avoid immediate discomfort and don’t think about long term consequences of choosing to watch TV instead of going for a walk. Even if we realise that watching TV and being sedentary is not good for us, we could still struggle with our motivation and choose the easy and convenient option over the more challenging, less comfortable option.

Know that your procrastination is an impulse to avoid immediate discomfort. We teach this in our Procrastination Course, but essentially you are avoiding doing something important because it doesn’t feel as pleasurable as an alternative. That might be a sip of red wine, melting chocolate or the latest Vikings episode.

     > If you need a bit of help with your procrastination we have a course just for you. You can read more about our Procrastination Course here

#4 Review frequently and monitor progress

I can’t emphasise enough how important it is for you to review your progress weekly or at least fortnightly. Don’t let time sail by and cause you to forget about your goals. Hold yourself accountable for your progress.

And please let’s not say: ”It’s too hard”, or “I don’t have time”. It doesn’t have to be a lot, maybe just a few minutes each week, but checking in with yourself reaffirms your commitment to your goal. Like lifting weights at the gym will help build to your muscles, reviewing your programs to your goals will help to improve the likelihood that you’ll reach your target.

Let’s say you want to stop going overboard when you’re drinking. You might want to remove yourself from situations where alcohol will be present or where you might feel tempted to binge. You can review your schedule and avoid temptations. Do you have any upcoming event invitations? Any parties? If so, what is your plan?

In our Binge drinking course, we discuss that you can still go out and have a good time but you need to think about the progress of a party; how many drinkswill you consume? When will you want to go home? How can you reward yourself for doing the right thing? How else can you make this goal more attractive?

Or if your goal is to improve your relationship with your partner after your relationship suffered a trauma, then you need to make sure that you attend to each other’s needs, work on communication, rebuild trust, learn positive conflict management skills and create new and positive experiences.  If you are already taking our Relationship rebuilding course, you will know how important it is to continue spending quality time together and to continue checking any misunderstandings or wrong assumptions we often make about each other. 

So, if you spend days arguing with your partner or you continue binge drinking, you need to review your motivation, your plan and your strategy. If you really want to succeed, then you might need a bit of extra help from a therapist or a coach. Maybe you need to prioritise your goals, or maybe you need to explore the barriers that are currently there. 

#5 Make your goal irresistible and change your inner talk 

Make it so that your resolutions are the most desirable goals for you. Keep on reminding yourself why you are doing it, why do you want to improve and achieve better results? Replace “It’s hard” with “It’s so important for me, I want to succeed and make it a year I can achieve positive results. I can do it.” And remember to say “When I encounter a challenge, I will ask for help and evaluate my progress and improve what I do and seek help if needed. I will achive my goals for 2021.” 

You can succeed with your goals, and we are here to help you to achieve your goals. We have a number of courses designed with you in mind, to help you to achive your goals. As difficult as a journey might be, there is always a way to realise your dreams and to stick with your new year’s resolutions.

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